Its own reward…

Remember the original Willy Wonka movie, with Gene Wilder? If you haven’t seen it, and I’m about to spoil a movie from 1971 shield your sweet Millennial eyes and look away because it’s happening: the climax of the movie where Charlie and his grandfather bear the famous “I said good day sir!” tirade, and instead of feeling entitled or justified in stealing Wonka’s trade secrets, Charlie returns the Ever-Lasting Gobstopper, a revolutionary candy. Wonka is in such awe, incredulous disbelief that a young boy would have the morals and scruples that no other human on planet Earth seemed to possess, it’s one of films greatest moments.

But something happened last night that made me see it slightly differently. I now understand the conflict Wonka must have felt, and perhaps a bit of shame in that he put a young boy through such a moral obstacle course: his relief that Charlie does the right thing is palatable and thrilling, but also a little haunting.

I’ve been trying to get Momokawa gear and better healing weapons (that sounds counter-intuitive: healing weapons – like an Azerothian oxymoron). Hawtpocket and I talked about her gear yesterday for a bit before the run, and my goals for gear. She needed better tier pieces, and definitely the mace and cricket cage (she has the off-hand from the big metal scorpion, and an LFR mace—ew!) One monk who’s been steadily there, Secondlight, is a wonderful Mistweaver monk. Jealously, I would look at his numbers, feel discouraged, and wish for more lucky drops. Every extra roll token for weeks has earned me only gold. (Sometimes I wish we didn’t have this ‘gear insurance’ because it sometimes sours or makes the loss magnified: you didn’t get gear once, and you didn’t get gear twice: you are a double loser!)

As seen in former beauty...
As seen in former beauty…

Momokawa is not used to feeling envy, though green is her color.

I’ve heard speak in Vent a few times, and asked him last night if he was from Australia (his server is Navimie’s former one, Dath’Remar), and he confirmed. I whispered him that was good news, because my husband says every time we hear an Aus accent we have to drink. (And then I made CD Rogue get me a small glass of red wine. I am fully prepared to take advantage of an opportunity.)

A True Healer
A True Healer

When we rolled on Dark Shaman gear, he won the Kardris Sceptor, I was really sad. My shoulders slumped, I felt bitchy and petty. Yuck, Matty!! YUCK! Those tiny moments I know I’d better dust my stupid self and snap the hell out of it. He was using a staff, and of course wanted a healing mace. Who wouldn’t? This is when I seriously question my judgment, or lack thereof, for having three relatively strong, or potentially strong, healers, and not focusing on any one to get gear. And I felt ashamed at myself for caring even for one minute that I would have to continue to be patient and try for the mace, and carry on with my LFR one. Hey, I told myself– the more gear others get the less they’ll need next time, right?! Somehow that helped when I reframed it that way.

We get to the General, and get through it no problem. We move on to the next wing, and he whispers me that he won the sword on the General, and would I like that? Well, sure, but Druids cannot equip swords. (Must be the iron: fairy folks and their brethren do not like iron.)

Know what he did next? He gave me the healing mace.

He gave me the Ever-Lasting Gobstopper.

(You know what gob means, right? Mouth. Yes. It SHUT ME UP.)

most important

My heart is bursting still at his generosity: I asked him several times if he was sure, and he had one request, to essentially do something kind for someone else. I told him what I do for work and he said that counts, (I’m paraphrasing). I do try to help, and I help every day. I give a lot to others, but my return on karmic investment is worth it. But this isn’t about me – this is about that once in awhile, someone acts in such a generous and gracious manner, it must be shouted from the rooftops.

Coincidentally, Navimie just posted this about making new friends:

People will say they avoid these interactions because of bad experiences – but to be honest, maybe it’s because I only remember the good ones that’s why I like to keep doing them.  And you never know – you may start that domino effect, where someone you randomly helped feels more confident or inclined to help somebody else who in turn helps someone else.  That’s a lot of someone elses!  And you never know – you may make a new friend 😀

I’m still feeling like someone put a Gobstopper on my desk. Thank you Secondlight–you just made two worlds a better place.

Our raiding goals are to get through the end before WoD – I see others have multiple Garrosh kills, yet I and my comrades are still waiting for ours. Thank heavens for players like Hawt, Secondlight, Moonmagick, who are so generous with their time, insight, and support. We couldn’t play without these things.

12 thoughts on “Its own reward…”

    1. You know it, sweetie! Represented the warmth and friendship I already enjoy! Wish we Yanks could do the same sometimes. It was a wonderful thing — now if I can just figure out that haste thingy….

  1. I’m still smiling from reading this post Matty. In the past two weeks, it really has become apparent just how blessed I am within the game of World of Warcraft. It’s not the purple gear that’s the true “epics”, it’s the people playing the characters around me. Our 25 man group is a composite of friends from several different raiding teams that I have participated in within the past seven months. It is actually a joy to get them all together to conquer these puzzles we call boss fights. Let us not forget our “pugs” from open raid, some of them are just absolutely awesome, Secondlight being just one of the many diamonds that I’ve stumbled across along the way.

    Some of the highs from raiding this past two weeks; Seeing first kills for some people and their alt toons. Hearing from our pugs that they just brought up their item level over 30 points in one raid.

    Some of the lows from raiding these two weeks; Hearing of people being denied loot in other raids not in my control. Getting whispers, apologizing for dying on a fight. And finally, feeling the group’s confidence drop after one or two wipes to a boss. These “lows” I believe are a direct result of bad leadership. I can’t go back in time and erase the fallout of elitists or raging raid leaders. What I can TRY is to make the raid time with me a positive experience. Should I stray from goals I hope my friends will set me back on the right path.

    Oh another low,… only having 25 slots to fill on Tuesday and Thursday

    Hawtpocketz/Tattertotz

    1. I have never understood why players get so upset with a wipe – maybe it’s my profession, maybe it’s my character, but that’s the fun in learning and trying again. Growth only happens with “mistakes,” — if we never wiped we wouldn’t play. How boring would that be? You actually do have the power to dispel rage and bad leadership, and you’ve done it with your group. I only have this much fun with my Old Ladies, and that’s saying something. Hopefully Second saw this—he didn’t know he was being cool to a WoW blogger! (I crack myself up.) Oh, and I didn’t have the key last time – someone else opened the jailer’s door! HORRIBLE FLASHBACK –haha

  2. Just had to pop in here for a congratulations! I’m so happy you finally got an upgrade for your healing weapon. 🙂 And what a wonderful way to get it too.

  3. It’s great that you’ve found a group that aligns with your goals and philosophies. 🙂

    Finding people that put themselves ahead of the greater good (the greater good) are all too common, so it’s nice to see that people still exist who put the group first. And I don’t mean in raw numbers through gear increases (i.e. optimisation of resources), but in boosted morale and tighter bonding.

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